Million Miles Tour Update

We are nearly finished booking the Million Miles Tour. I’ll be hitting the road, speaking in 65 cities this fall. In about a month, I’ll post the names of the cities, and information about when and where I will be. I’m very much looking forward to hitting the road with this book. Susan Isaacs will be out with me and she is very funny, so it should be a good night for all. We still have several cities we want to hit but are looking for the right venue. If you happen to live in or near one of these cities, and could host an event on one of these dates, do contact my booking agency.

 

Sept

16         Vancover, BC

17         Spokane, WA

18         Tri-Cities, WA

Oct

3         Wichita or Topeka, KS

4         Oklahoma City, OK

 6         Tulsa, OK

 8         Kansas City or St. Louis, MO

13         Indianapolis, Ft. Wayne or South Bend, IN

15         Nashville, TN

16         Knoxville, TN

17         Asheville, NC

27         Columbus, OH

Nov

3           Louisville, KY

5           Houston, TX

7         Waco or Lubbock, TX

15        Jacksonville, FL

17        Talahassee, FL

18        Montgomery, AL

20        Chattanooga, TN

21        Atlanta, GA


We are looking for churches/venues that seat 1000+, if you or your church are interested please click through to http://www.2twelveagency.com/booking.php and submit your information.

Happy Fathers Day

Thank you to everybody who donated through our Fathers Day Campaign. By now, you or your fathers should have received your packages. Because of you, we increased our monthly recurring donations by 20%. And because of you, several more church programs will be created through The Mentoring Project and those programs will mentor many, many more young men growing up without fathers. Our communications director will keep you posted via your e-mail. We are very grateful for our partnership with you to answer the crisis of fatherlessness in America.

On both Saturday night and Sunday morning, I will be speaking at Oak Hills Church in San Antonio. Oak Hills is Max Lucado’s church, and I’m looking forward to being with both Max and Randy Frazee and am honored to be able to visit with their people on Fathers Day. You can find out more on the church’s website, or you can watch the service live by clicking the live link on the church’s website.

Dr. John Sowers is representing The Mentoring Project at the White House for their Fathers-Day Activities. The President is devoting a considerable amount of his time to talk about the importance of responsible fatherhood, and to honor fathers who are doing a great job. What a privilege to have a representative in Washington on such a historic day.

Lastly, happy Fathers Day to you. If you are a dad, thanks for being a dad, thanks for loving your kids. They need it, by design. And if you have a strained of absent relationship with your dad, take all the comfort in the world that we have a father who has not neglected us. The job of our earthly fathers has always been to introduce their children to their “real” dad. And as insufficient as your earthly father was, take comfort in the fact your “real” dad fathers perfectly. We are not victims. All of our trials are blessings. I am so thankful for mine. What an incredible opportunity to introduce people to their real father. It’s great work.

Blessings,

Don Miller

Sorry for not filling out your survey. I had a brain tumor.

My friend David Wenzel, who is inspiring all of us who know him right now, found out just last week that he has a tumor in his brain. He hit his head while at a conference in San Francisco, and was later taken to the hospital, where they discovered the tumor. Had he not hit his head, the tumor would most likely have gone undetected. Dave is a special guy. Everybody who meets him loves him. He’s remarkably creative and has probably been involved in some of your favorite media productions. So it shocked (and a little scared, to tell you the truth) us to hear that such a brilliant young mind had a tumor in it. 

One of the reasons we all love Dave is because when a situation becomes tense, Dave becomes calm. He’s a rock. Not that he has to be, because he doesn’t, but he’s just been there for a lot of people, and it’s nice for those of us to know him to be there for him now. Anyway, Dave is now at the Mayo clinic in Minnesota, but I thought you might appreciate the response letter he wrote the hotel he stayed at in San Fran when they contacted him about forgetting to take a survey regarding his stay:

 

Dear David,

Recently, we sent you an invitation to complete a Guest Satisfaction Survey concerning your stay with us at Sofitel San Francisco Bay, where you checked out on June 07, 2009.

We noticed that you did not have time to complete the survey. We are concerned that you may not have responded because we have somehow failed to live up to your expectations.

At Sofitel, we are committed to providing a superior guest experience to each and every one of our customers. Please take a few minutes to tell us how well we met your expectations.

Thank you again for choosing Sofitel, and I look forward to hearing about your stay with us.

Sincerely,

Christophe Julliard
Vice President Quality and Planning
Accor Business and Leisure Hotels North America

Dear Christophe,

I apologize for not completing my Guest Satisfaction Survey upon my check-out on June 7, 2009.  However, you are indeed correct that I did not respond as I lacked ample time to complete the survey. Around checkout time on the 7th, I hurriedly exited the hotel in an ambulance.

Please do not be concerned that you have somehow failed to live up to my expectations.  In fact the opposite is true!  You have exceeded them! While I was staying at your hotel, your Cancer Detection System worked like a charm.  After years of being completely unaware, your hotel helped me discover a pesky tumor that had been growing in my brain for years.  Had I not stayed at your hotel, it is completely possible I never would have made use of this detection tool!  (To clarify, by tool I mean the concrete slab in your hotel bar that I smacked me head on).  Expectations = Exceeded! In addition, I enjoyed your in-house olive bread and pesto sauce.  And that means quite a bit because I typically am not a fan of pesto.

However, I do feel obligated to tell you that in the moments after my grand-mal seizure while being wheeled through your lobby on a stretcher (once again the hurry I mentioned), I did notice that there were some leaves that had blown into the pool.  As a VP of Quality and Planning, I imagine this would fall below your standards. I assume when I return to your hotel next time, this matter will be taken care of.

Regards,

David Wenzel

Hotel Guest - Room 607; June 1-7, 2009

 

DAVE, WE LOVE YOU. PRAYING STILL…(Feel free to leave Dave comments below!)

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In response to The Weekly Standard and Emerging Church Questions

For several years now I’ve been asked questions about the emerging church and my feelings about the movement that I am a part of. These questions have always been confusing to me, because I’m not really part of the emerging church. I’m not a pastor, have never been a pastor, and don’t know very much about church or how to do church. I leave church to smarter, more gifted men and women. I honestly don’t think about how people should do church.

I have friends who are strongly associated with the emerging church movement, but they will tell you we have never had conversations about church. In fact, they would probably tell you I am completely ignorant about how to do church. I care about writing books. That’s my job. I have no more opinions about how to do church than a plumber. I wrote an essay about it in Blue Like Jazz, but the piece was really from the perspective of the man in the pew, and I’ve never really talked about it since.

But I really like my emergent friends. The one thing my very conservative friends and my liberal friends have in common is that they are extremely kind. I think kind people are kind and mean people are mean and it hardly matters whether they are conservative or not. It has more to do with irritable bowels, I think, or a persons controlling personality vs. their ability to trust Gods grace and speak His truth without associating a persons response to that truth with their own threatened identity. Regardless, I keep the kind friends and slyly slip away from the mean ones. Life’s too short.

When you are a writer, most of the things said about you in the press aren’t true. It’s not all bad, it’s just not all factual. Recently somebody handed me a Bible in which I submitted commentary and the bio in the back stated I lived in Portland with my wife Kate. I was shocked. I didn’t know I was married, and I’ve never dated a Kate. I felt like a terrible husband. Another reason I shouldn’t be a pastor.

When the recent political season came around, and I said a prayer at the Democratic Convention, and then later campaigned for Obama. I read many ridiculous things about myself after that. Some of the comments were mean. But I know they weren’t talking about me. They were talking about somebody they thought was me. I slyly slipped away to avoid the conversation, because while my name was being thrown around, my identity was secure for other reasons, and I was bored with the hype.

But last week, the Weekly Standard printed an article regarding me and, apparently, my political beliefs. The article was so very far off I feel a need to respond. I’m not going to get into a debate about the ideas, as I don’t think an article this biased is an invitation to a reasonable discussion. But the mistakes and inaccuracies presented need to be corrected.

I think the writer basically searched around on the internet and pieced together his article without fact checking. I was not contacted or interviewed by the Weekly Standard for their piece, which seemed odd for a biographical essay.

My book Blue Like Jazz grew out of a time when I was disillusioned with church, but my position on the church is not as hateful, or political, as the Weekly Standard has presented. I wrote in Blue Like Jazz: “It doesn’t do any good to bash churches, so I am not making blanket statements against the church as a whole. I have only been involved in a few churches, but I had the same tension with each of them; that’s the only reason I bring it up.” The Weekly Standard failed to present a balanced perspective, which, if taken in context, was the aim and the overwhelming interpretation of the book. You’d have to look pretty hard to paint me as a flaming liberal, and you’d have to overlook even more. What saddens me about their article is it addressed people of faith. I understand Fox News and/or CNN presenting a biased opinion in order to sell advertising to a target demographic, but I don’t think that is an appropriate strategy to address matters of faith.

The article describes the church I attend as “a socially conscious church in Seattle” and then makes the leap of positioning me as part of the emergent church movement—perhaps because I am under the age of forty. I am not a member of the emergent church movement. I attend a conservative church (in Portland, not Seattle) that reaches out to the poor. I doubt most of the people at my church voted the way I voted in the last election, but quite honestly, we don’t talk about it. We are involved in larger things. My theology is essentially reformed, though I’d elaborate on “sin nature” much further than many reformed theologians would, adding their own biases to the mix of total depravity and seeing it evidenced in both religious and non-religious personalities.

While I have friends who are part of the emergent church, and friends close to Obama, I also have many, many extremely conservative friends. I am never attacked by liberals for my association with my conservative friends, even though they number, perhaps, ten to one. I guess this is “guilt by association,” but apparently the writer of the article only looked at a tiny percentage of my associates. It’s bad journalism.

There is humorous criticism of Republicans in Blue Like Jazz, but I would also point out that in the same book I referred to my more liberal friends as “fruit nuts.” I voted for George W. Bush, actually, and have always made that clear. I did oppose the invasion of Iraq, and wrote a single article about my opposition. I feel a need to point out that the Weekly Standard attempted a character assault based largely on associations rather than facts.

As for my support for President Obama, I travelled around the country during the campaign and publicly disagreed with Obama’s position on abortion. I encouraged conservatives to do more on the issue than speak loudly because I saw the last 40 years as hardly being successful as far as reducing the number of abortions or ending the tragedy taking place in our country. This is hardly a soft stand on the issue. Not many people in the Obama camp were saying such a thing. And yet they accepted me and listened to my position. I found them to be open to dialogue. I still do.

Finally, it is true that I think “very fondly of those wacko Republican fundamentalists,” but I love the “fruit nut liberals” too!  I’d love to enter into a debate about this, but debates about such topics have proven fruitless. And besides, I don’t have time. I’m married. The Bible says so. I can’t wait to meet her!

Best,

 

Don

 

 

 

  

Thoughts on the First Three Chapters

So I’m still polishing the book, even though the press is, today, receiving their copies for review. The way a book starts is crucial, and I’ve written and rewritten the first few chapters about fifty times. Still, I’d love your opinion about the way this book starts. It’s a slow start, actually. It takes about three chapters. But if you have time, would you mind taking a look at these three chapters and commenting your thoughts. I can seriously polish the thing for the next week or so. THANKS.

Best,

Don

THREE CHAPTERS

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Regarding My Time in Prison

While in Texas last week I visited my friend Catherine Rohr at the prison where she runs Prison entrepreneurship Program.

Catherine and I met years ago but connected again recently in Austin and she told me a bit more about what she does. Her program works with mostly violent criminals who are in the last years of their sentencing, and who have passed strenuous testing to be accepted into PEP. These are prisoners who were running gangs or small businesses behind bars, whose skill-set can be converted into healthy entrepreneurial outlets. Once accepted, the state of Texas transfers the prisoners to the Cleveland (TX) unit where they enter into a five-month, intensive experience that changes their lives.

After going through security, Catherine and I made our way back to the classroom at the prison, a large, divided room that, on one side contains a computer lab and staff cubicles, and on the other an open room that will comfortably seat 100 or so prisoners. As the prisoners streamed in, I was surprised to be greeted by so many of them with hugs. These men did not seem like hardened criminals. They were soft and courteous and even dignified. Not only were they more kind and friendly than the stereotypical prisoner, they were more kind and friendly than the stereotypical CEO or COO. At one point, I looked around and realized Catherine and I were alone in the room with 100 prisoners. Literally, there were no guards in the room. And on a typical day, she would be in there without a single guest or staff member. The State of Texas certainly believes in the program, and in the prisoners who are enrolled.

As prisoners enter the program, Catherine and her interns (previous graduates, still serving time working for the organization from behind bars) wash the prison off their new students with such tactics as giving them sweet names, names like fruity juice or teddy bear. Prisoners are encouraged to hug, to say I love you, to acknowledge their own weaknesses (a strenuous character assessment is undergone in which many of the students fail. The character assessment assures prisoners they have no blind spots as to flaws in their personalities.) As a visiting teacher, I was asked to dance in front of the class (imagine me dancing in front of 100 men behind bars!) but the truth is I had a great time. Loud music played and I had to go up against some of the best dancers in the room. Somebody would show me a move, and I had to repeat it, all to the cheering of the PEP students. It’s their way of saying nobody in this room gets to act tough. Anybody who takes themselves too seriously would not last in PEP. Literally, the are asked to leave the program. It definitely broke the ice and made everything that happened after that light and easy.

I thoroughly enjoyed my time in prison. The men I met behind bars were some of the most encouraging, engaging businessmen I’ve encountered. Any company would do well to hire a man who has been through Catherine’s program. The only unfortunate reality of her program is that it is not accessible to teams of CEO’s on the outside. Any corporation would benefit greatly from the grueling experience of P.E.P.

I wrote a chapter in A Million Miles in a Thousand Years about Catherine’s program, but unfortunately am not going to be able to include it in the new book (it didn’t fit the memoir tone of the overall manuscript). It may move to a coming reprint of To Own a Dragon or a follow-up book I’m working on to come after Million Miles. That said, though, I wanted to post it for you:

(lots of type-o’s. Sorry about that.)

Chapter 14

Story Application in Leadership

While we were still working on the screenplay, I wrote an article about story—about how, in story, the point is usually the arc of the character. I wrote about the forces within story that change people, make them better. And so I was asked to speak about story at a conference in Atlanta.

The conference was in an old theater, and each presenter was given eighteen minutes to impart his idea. I was slotted between futurists who predicted an eventual climax in global population and a fellow who started a shoe company in which he gave a pair of shoes away in a Third-World country for every pair of his shoes purchased by an American. In the audience were leaders hoping to glean any sort of knowledge or inspiration they could apply in their given field.

I gave my speech about story, but before I was finished the zeros started flashing, so I had to wrap it up quickly and sit down. I got a spattering of applause but nothing to call Mom about. I was feeling a little insecure and wondered if I would have done better if I’d have used multimedia. The guy who spoke before me had slides.

I went back out into the audience and sat at a table, and an attractive, young girl leaned over and said, “I’ve seen it work. I’ve seen story change people’s lives.”

Before I could ask her what she was referring to, she was introduced and took the stage. For her presentation, she simply told her story. I found it compelling. I’ll summarize as well as I can.

Catherine earned a bachelor’s degree in business from Berkley and spent six years working in private equity and venture capital in Palo Alto and New York before the company she worked for, in an effort to expose their employees to varying cultures, took a few staff on a tour of a prison. Catherine had never been inside a prison and confessed she went in judgmental about what she would find inside. She assumed prisoners were bad, lazy people and they couldn’t be rehabilitated. Statistics indicate this is true, after all. But once inside, Catherine faced the reality that men in prison were human beings, and not only human beings, but human beings who were locked into cages and given no opportunity to play any other role than that of prisoner.

She went back to New York and tried to get the prisoners out of her mind, but she couldn’t. After being haunted for sometime by another storyline, she quit her job and moved to Texas where she started an organization called the Prison Entrepreneurship Program (PEP). Without any money or experience, she asked a local prison if she could come in and teach a business class. The prison agreed, allotting her a few students. The success of that class led Catherine to create a curriculum that would teach entrepreneurial leadership skills, and the prison found the students in Catherine’s class were less likely to get into trouble. Perhaps because Catherine would dismiss them from the class if they did.

Her results were so successful that after a year the prison decided to transfer some of the worst inmates in the state to the prison where she taught her class. Catherine requested the inmates who were running gangs or selling drugs, because those were the inmates who already knew how to manage people and financial structures. The success of her program is due, in part, to Catherine’s insistence that students begin to see themselves differently. Prisoners in Catherine’s class are not referred to by prison-issued inmate numbers, but as Chief Financial Officer of company B, or company A, according to the fictional business models they create. Over the first couple of years, Catherine’s program grew so successful that students began to compete with each other and were then judged by a panel who put students through a rigorous process of analysis. For judges, Catherine was able to recruit CEOs and COOs of some of America’s leading companies including AIG, J.P. Morgan Chase, Greyrock Capital Group, and many others.

To ensure students maintain their newfound identity as entrepreneurs, upon their release graduates are provided reentry assistance including job placement, executive mentoring, further education in business and access to financing. Nationally, more than two-thirds of the six hundred thousand prisoners who are released into the greater population return to prison within two to three years. PEP graduates, however, have a recidivism rate of less than 3 percent and 93 percent of their graduates are successfully employed within one month of leaving prison. Catherine’s program now operates in multiple prisons and has graduated more than four hundred students.

Most prisons provide food and water, a small cell, and exercise. The role most prisoners are given once behind bar is the role of an animal. And so many of them learn to live as animals. Their ambition is animal ambition, to survive, their conflict is animal conflict, to flee or to fight, and their resolution is animal resolution, to act as an animal upon release. Catherine is providing a different story, and a different role to play within that story. Catherine argued that while many prisoners deserve the sentences they have been given, the system itself is affirming a criminal identity through this lack of rehabilitation, and it’s costing taxpayers more than sixty billion dollars each year. Some might say we are spending sixty billion to educate criminals to become more criminal.

While Catherine’s program may not be feasible on a national scale, it does indicate the provision of an ambition, the guidance through conflict, and the promise of a resolution results in a change of character. Catherine had just created a new model for rehabilitation, and essentially, it was to guide a protagonists through a story.

I wondered whether story was more than just a way to live a better life. I wondered if it might provide an entire new model for leadership. I wondered how the average teacher, CEO, Coach, and even Parent would plan and execute strategy differently if they saw themselves as story directors rather than traditional leaders. It seemed like the elements of story were undiscovered treasures for more disciplines than writing and screenwriting.

Students clapping for a prisoner who is graduating the program and leaving prison.

Me showing my moves!

No combat boots for this leader!

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Autographed Joshua Harris books

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