21Sep, 2009

Update on The Mentoring Project and the Fatherhood Task Force

As I’ve wrapped up the book and started the book tour, I’ve definitely been wearing two hats. Publicly it’s been getting the word out about the new book, but behind the scenes the locomotive that is The Mentoring Project has moved forward at a dramatic pace. In the past six months or so, we’ve hired a new President and a new communications director, and are currently planning our dream team to take our vision forward. As I speak on the road, I’m asking for people to partner with us in providing mentors for young men growing up without fathers, and I’m amazed and encouraged at how many have stepped forward to join us. It’s been humbling but also exciting. photo

Last week I met with the Presidential Task Force on Fatherhood and Healthy Families. While we’ve met before, this was our first work retreat in which we plunged into the issue over an extended series of meetings, preparing our recommendations for the President as he and his team steer the administration around the topic of fatherhood. I was encouraged as we met and talked about fatherhood and fatherlessness that the church in America is poised to make an enormous impact. In fact, one study referenced in our discussions said that most Americans, including Americans who do not practice faith, believe churches are the main source of hope regarding the fatherless crisis. I believe likewise.

This is an issue that the President cares deeply about, because he himself has succeeded with the help of mentoring figures. As the father of two beautiful girls, he speaks often from his pulpit about the need for responsible fathers. One of my favorite lines the President has used is that “any fool can get a girl pregnant, but it takes a man to be a father.” I think that is true.

To be sure, we will not be recommending that the President spend a great deal of government funds on this issue. In fact, in the Fatherhood movement, 90% of funding has come from private sources. I don’t see that changing. However, we have the benefit of a President who cares about men and their roles as fathers and desires to shine a spotlight on various aspects of importance. Our recommendations to the President may be made public at some point, but in brief they are that he continues to champion the issue, that the administration increase communication between existing government agencies and programs (we have a detailed list of those agencies and concerns they might share) an evaluation of best practices in existing programs allowing us to share that information with agencies working within the issue, and a broad use of the convening power of the White House to increase communication between existing private agencies. There is, of course, much more, and I am deeply encouraged by the plans being put into action.

That said, the President and the Task Force agree and have made public that government is not going to be able to solve the problem of fatherlessness. The only hope I see on this issue is the church. We have the buildings, we have the funds, we have the manpower, we have the theological mandate, all we need are the workers.

At this point, TMP is running 7 programs in Portland, providing mentors for 100 fatherless boys. But we have over 300 churches who are ready and willing to start a program. We are funded at our current level of involvement, but we honestly need to move forward at a rapid pace. I’m incredibly grateful to those who are already donating to our organization, but we do need more. I think the church, through mentoring, can curb the divorce rate, the teen suicide rate, shut down prisons and so much more. It will take an intense effort, and TMP will champion that effort. If you’ve not already partnered with us, please do so here. And if you are already supporting us, will you tell your friends?

Thanks so much for your help. I’ll keep you posted as we move forward.

11 Responses to “Update on The Mentoring Project and the Fatherhood Task Force”

  1. Sarah Fletcher says:

    I am so privileged to support the project and am wondering about my church being a part of it. I did pick up the overview postcard when I signed up and maybe you mentioned it and I missed it, but you should talk more about the project equipping churches to mentor. This seems like the key to REALLY getting numbers going.
    You and Susan were great to see last night in Bothell – the right combo of laughing, crying and thinking.
    No Blue Bell will be mailed to Ptown- $119 for 2 gallons! I am not frickin kidding!!! It may be good, but it can’t be that good – so eat your fill on the tour then stick with Ben & Jerry’s.

  2. Shelly says:

    Support sent your way…both spiritual and financial. :)

    I especially liked the last minute and a half of the podcast. You have to admire a man who takes his role as father and husband seriously and with great honor.

    I will say, the world (America) would be much different if we pulled our heads out of our cans and realized what really matters and what really makes a difference. Stable families, secure homes, and being a part of a supportive community are all foundational.

    You’re stepping in the gap Don, and kid’s life directions will be altered in such positive ways.

    May you continue to trust God and watch Him move your mountains and theirs.

  3. Colin says:

    What a wonderful, motivated action you’ve put forth, Don. It’s great to see somebody who speaks so much about faith put it into action.

    Thanks for everything…

    (Yikes, I sound like I’m sucking up)

    -Colin
    colinsays.com

  4. Jennifer says:

    Thanks for filling us in on what’s going on with TMP. What a vision! Will definitely spread the word to friends and family as I so believe in what the TMP is doing. Children just need someone to believe in them and that makes all the difference!

  5. JamesW says:

    Don, thanks very much for this post. I don’t have anything to comment on or to add; you said it perfectly. And the video clip was great. Thanks!

  6. Anna says:

    In just a few minutes, I will be gladly signing up to help. :)

    I used to work in a group home for kids who could not be with their families, and those who didn’t have families. I saw first hand the great need for mentors. I worked mostly in the homes for girls, but often observed the male staff and their interaction with the boys. You could see clearly how much the boys valued that interaction, even in times of conflict, because most of them NEVER had that from their own fathers. It’s heartbreaking. But, it’s SO encouraging and wonderful to see what projects like The Mentoring Project bring into the lives of boys in need of mentors.

    I often feel like I’m repeating myself, so I may have mentioned these things before, but really, we should never stop talking about the things that need talking about. :) Not necessarliy with loud voices, but enough to encourage people to take a step into acts of service, that may go beyond our comfort zones. I think your new book does that very well.

  7. sir jorge says:

    that’s definitely an interesting thing

  8. David A says:

    Don,

    Are churches in other cities (say, on the east coast) able to tap into this project?

    Please let me know.

    David

  9. Andria says:

    I find this movement encouraging and needed. However, as a fatherless daughter growing up in traditional church this movement seems to be strictly focusing on boys with an absence of the power of fatherlessness on young girls. I would suggest to expand this project to include an area in which young girls can also receive the guidance and mentoring a father figure provides (while under supervision). Fatherless girls need churches/programs to step up and recognize them as well as fatherless boys. Just saying.

  10. Eric Verby says:

    Good going, Don. This is a great initiative. It’s nice to know that your faith has evolved to the p0int of blossoming into service.

    Keep exploring the heart of Christianity, which is really all about the heart of Christ Himself–in his mercy, grace, and justice.

  11. E Allen says:

    You said that 90% of the budget is from private sources- what is the current budget for the Family Task Force?

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