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Late this year or early next year my friend Chase Reeves and I will be releasing a years worth of podcasts. Every so often I head over to Chases studio and we sit and talk about life, love, God, sex, church, morality and so on and so on. The conversation always proves interesting as Chase and I are old and good friends but come from very different perspectives. Chase is a former Christian who has left the church and is asking questions about God, and I’m a Christian who has a strong belief in Jesus but doesn’t tend to believe the modern evangelical church has all the answers. We didn’t realize how much we’d enjoy the conversations when we started, but we’ve grown to love our times together, and always come out of our conversations with a better understanding of how the other thinks, and a greater respect for the joys and hardship of faith. If you’re interested, head on over to the website and give us your e-mail address. When we release the podcast, we will let you know. We hope you like it. You can learn more here.

My friend Bob Goff (@bobgoff) has a little saying he keeps close to his heart: Be Secretly Incredible. It’s something I think about nearly every day, but something I rarely follow through on. I put ten times the energy into being “publicly good” than I do into being “privately good.” But something in me is starting to change. Maybe it happens as we get older. Maybe we start to realize how much our early adult years have been spent projecting an image rather than establishing character, and maybe I’m in that stage where looking back on that season makes be queasy. If I were being hard on myself, I’d accuse myself of being a con artist. But that’s too hard. The truth is we all want to be perceived as hard-working, good people because those are the people who get respect. But being a hard-working, good person is, well, hard work. And the true rewards come to those who establish that kind of character for real. How much time do we spend talking about a cause vs working on behalf of a cause? How much time do we spend talking up our marriages vs loving our spouse? How much time [...]

If you’re a dad who is working hard to love his kids and their mom, today we celebrate you. A father is a position created by God that only a man can fulfill, and God created your role to bring order into chaos. Without you, your kids wouldn’t have somebody to read them a story at night, to give them a sense of security. Without you, your daughters might doubt there could be a man out there who could love them the way you love their mom. Without you, there would be a wound in the soul of your children, and a wound in the soul of your wife, too. I hope you take some time today to think about how much better you are making the world around you. I know it can be tough sometimes, and I know the world goes out of its way to celebrate lesser men, but stick it out and do the hard work because the truly rich blessings in this life go to the ones who endure in quiet goodness. Here’s a verse that comes to mind as I think about the responsibility of fathers. It’s from Genesis 4: “The Lord said to [...]

Happy Fathers Day to all you great dads out there. Thanks for doing the hard work of providing for your families, both financially and emotionally. And especially spiritually. Thanks for pointing your family to their true Father in all that you do. We know the work isn’t easy, but both me and the folks at The Mentoring Project have high praise for you this week. Enjoy your fathers day, and I hope you are celebrated. If you grew up without a Dad, you’ll be glad to hear that The Mentoring Project has had an explosive year. We’ve partnered dozens of kids with older brother and father-figures. A recent match took place between our friends Don and his mentee Tony. Don read some statistics about what happens when Fathers abandon their children and felt compelled to do something about it. He signed up with TMP and today enjoys a friendship that is changing Tony’s life, but also his own. Both of them were recently interviewed on CNN for a feature on mentoring. We are so proud of you guys! Way to go!! If you don’t know anything about The Mentoring Project, it all started several years ago after I wrote a [...]