Penny Carothers is a mom and the Social Justice Editor at the Burnside Writers Collective. You can find her on Twitter, her blog, or more often, on the floor playing with legos. You may also remember her as Penny from Blue Like Jazz, except she’s even more awesome in person. I guess I’m not postmodern enough to have read the Desert Mothers, but once upon a time I was into the mystics. Years ago, when reading about Juliann of Norwich, I had an intense desire to, like her, have a room built around me – which I could never leave – so I could devote myself to the meditative life. (Ha!  Excuse me while I laugh myself silly.) That life – and sometimes it seems my whole goll-darn spiritual life – is ancient history. ‘Cuz I have kids now. I’ve got two, which means I can’t spend days in a cave or hours on my knees. Something about the mental and physical exhaustion of child-rearing makes even the leanest spiritual practice a near impossibility. The proffered solutions are laughable, even ridiculous. Get up earlier to read the Bible. Seriously? Is that a joke? Find space in the small moments of [...]

20Oct, 2011

I heard a documentarian say the oceans were the most unexplored known territory, even more so than space. He said we know less about the deeps than we do the heights, and I suppose we could debate his point. He was no doubt trying to peak our interest and raise more money for more documentaries, more time in a submarine. Who can blame him. We do know a lot about space, and we are learning more about the oceans, but I don’t think either of these territories are the least explored. I still think the least explored territory is humanity, both collective and individual. It’s not physical territory, I know, but where is there more fearful darkness or illuminating beauty than in the depths of the person sitting next to you on a bus? Where is there more evil and more beauty than in the unexplored cosmos of a human being? I wonder if you might take a walk tonight after dinner with your daughter or your son, or your wife or your neighbor, and take the submarines down for a dive. Who are they? What do they love? What are they afraid of? Do they understand their own power? [...]

19Oct, 2011

Parentocracy

The following is the first in a series of guest posts. Jason Boyett is the author of O Me of Little Faith and the Pocket Guide series of books. Find him at Dadequate, Twitter, Facebook, and at jasonboyett.com. There’s a hot new website — they still make those, you know — called Fitocracy. It’s a site for tracking your day-to-day fitness achievements. How many push-ups did you do? How fast did you run that 5K? How long were you on the elliptical? You log in your workouts, it assigns points based on your exercises’ degree of difficulty, and you watch the points accumulate. Once you reach a certain number of points, you move up a level. You unlock achievement badges. And because it’s as much a social media site as anything else, your friends and followers get to see how well (or poorly) you’re doing. The guys who started it, Brian Wang and Richard Talens, grew up playing video games. They knew how addictive gaming could be. What if the pleasures of gaming — new levels, new achievements, a flurry of points — could be applied to exercise? After all, exercise isn’t always fun. You don’t always see immediate changes [...]

I make a lot of decisions using intuition, which researchers are beginning to understand as more reliable, and less mystical than previously thought. Intuition is really about pattern recognition, about subconsciously picking up on conflicting patterns in a situation. One of the more discussed examples of intuitive decision making has to do with a fire chief who, shortly after entering a burning house, commanded all his men leave the house immediately without really understanding why. He said the decision came from his gut, that “something wasn’t right” and he wanted his men out of the house. That decision saved the lives of his men, as seconds after exiting the house the floor collapsed. If they’d have stayed in the house, everybody would have been killed. When interviewed about his decision, the fire chief couldn’t explain his decision logically. Some of the men under his command attributed the command to a higher force, a sort of guardian angel. But guardian angel or not, by design our brains work to protect us from making mistakes, and often we have no explanation as to why. On further investigation, several things were happening in that fire that worked to inform the fire chief’s subconscious. [...]