Last night I stayed out till about 3am with some old friends. We shared the same stories we always share, stories about living in the woods, in the mountains of Oregon, about how we met in Colorado, about how we used to sleep on the lawn or meet each other outside one of our high schools, waiting for somebody to come tumbling out the window to skip for the day so we could go to the river. We all agreed those were some of the best days of our lives. And each of us has lived a life with no less risk, adventure or excitement. As the evening wore down, one of my friend said to me, “You know, Don, I think I just assumed back then that everybody was special, that everybody wanted to live an exceptional life, but it isn’t true. The older I get, the more I realize people don’t really know how to live well. There are not very many special people in the world.” I reluctantly agreed. I say reluctantly because in my line of work you meet and even seek out exceptional people. I’ve met tons of them, many of them having become my [...]

27Dec, 2011

This isn’t one of my better little scratch-out blogs. But I’m okay with it. I’ve enjoyed coming to my desk every day and pulling out the little pad and playing Andy Rouney for a minute. I like this one, even though it’s hardly worth anybody else reading. I think I just needed to preach to myself for a second about who I am and how I live. I’d forgotten. Come the new year I’ll be blogging a bit more about hopes and dreams and starting over and all the usual fair for blogs in January. I love thinking about that stuff. For now, here’s some end-of-the-year rambling. Hope you’re holidays are going swimmingly!

So, according to researchers, if you want to be healthy you have to be in an environment where you are accepted and are free to have flaws. You also have to love yourself, have compassion for yourself and accept yourself. Why, because if we are going to be healthy, we must connect, and if we are going to connect, we must be vulnerable with each other. This TED Talk from Brene Brown is the best I’ve heard in a while. Are you somebody people can be vulnerable with? And do you struggle with vulnerability? You’ll enjoy this. I’ve made some notes under the clip. Peruse them as you watch and listen. Don STUFF I GOT FROM BRENE BROWN: • We are here to connect. It’s hardwired into our biology. It’s the driving force in the human personality. • Shame unravels connection. People who do not experience shame cannot experience connection. Shame is the enemy of connection. • In order for connection to happen, we must allow ourselves to be seen. We must overcome our shame. • A sense of worthiness is connected to a sense of love and belonging. • People who have a strong sense of love and belonging [...]

16Dec, 2011

   

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